20181117, Article, Taichung

[Jasmine0316]

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Time：第 453 會，2018 年 11 月 17 日（週六）下午2:30~5:30
Place：
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?t=15

Agenda
14:30~15:30 Session One
15:30~15:50 Speech Session
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Session Two
17:15~17:30 Happy Time

Host: Yang
Assistant Host:

Topic:
Honesty Isn't Always the Best Policy in Relationships. Here's When Experts Say It Might Be Better to Lie
Source:
http://time.com/5406989/when-better-to-lie-than-tell-truth/


Please Note:
Venue:台中市南屯區 大業路182號 Mos Burger二樓
Thanks a lot for your attention.

Questions:

1. There are five scenarios in this article. Which one do you like most?

2. What's the best lie you have heard?

3. Please share a lie you’ve told before? Did this lie achieve a good outcome?

4. How do you teach your children or younger generation about this? Honesty is the best policy or it's better to tell a lie in some situations?


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http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=1766
週六晚餐(Saturday Dinner)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=76
戶外活動(Club Outing)

[Jasmine0316]

Dear Taichung Happiers,

In relationships, to “be” or not to “be”? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QQDWF4y9QYU

To be or not to be, what is life but another name of relationships? We need a lesson in Shakespeare? Relationships. Relationships with people, animals, the nature, (food,) or everything touchable and untouchable? We don’t know we don’t know that relationship can silently surface and strengthen us like no other. While I was reading in a café the other day, a girl’s greeting totally took me by surprise: “Are you that ......English...book....? Please keep going, no matter what!” Oh la la! I...I......I can’t really tell you how touched and motivated I was; yet, I firmly believe that everyone can absorb the profound power of relationship, which uplifts us like trees. Relationship! Coincidentally or not, Mark Twain’s timeless wisdom resonated with the “Relationships of Shared Virtue”, which Aristotle had endorsed,”Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great.” Relationship. What does every layer in relationships taste like? How to prepare our emotions for it? What legacy will we leave if we have great relationships with family and friends, communities and organizations, and the Nature? Ladies and gentlemen, if you have the yearning to impact more, if you want to find a measure of fulfillment, welcome to join our host Yang in discovering the direction of creating more connections and demonstrating the equation: relationship is reality.

Relationship is reality. “My friend got a personal trainer a year before his wedding. I thought: ‘Bloody hell. How long’s the aisle going to be?’” Is the nature of relationship like the Swedish proverb having, “Shared joy is double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow”? Isn’t every relationship interpreting our deepest desires and doubts? Played through us, relationship is like the music accompanying the dance, and, we, the instrument. The prolonged practice is required to bring the relative pitch, as the perfect pitch does not always do everyone good. The nature of relationship doesn’t complete us--but empowers us to grow and inspires us to develop into more fully ourselves. Our spiritual growth in relationships guides the light for us to open new doors. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwDtSsoiFME Furthermore, the visibility of the value of relationship and memory visits us so rarely that we can hardly recognize it. Yet, Mr. Memory and Miss Relationship can become new persons in the blink of eye. In particular, shining with honesty and integrity, memory is bound with every relationship tightly and tastefully. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u78Axjk722M&feature=youtu.be Relationship is reality. In relationships, we fly high with the treasured lesson to prioritize “looking outward together in the same direction” over gazing at each other. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IEY0Eyah13E Consequently, relationship will be honest—relationship evolving on humility will be hot—relationship will be about respecting each other’s way of looking at the world. Relationship will be the ultimate result of making ripples in people’s lives.

Relationship is making ripples in people’s lives. We are all in the circle. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIs95h1aIdY Directed by psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, the 80-year-long Harvard research following hundreds of men for decades is a great comfort. It reassures us that every physical/mental condition looks much more beautiful under the vast ocean of healthy, happy relationships. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI Moreover, do you find the word “relationship” in your definition of success? Success isn’t measured by our wealth, but by how many people influenced by us. Our relationships with fans, readers, audiences, students, or even strangers can (in)directly make positive impacts—this is the meaning of relationship, isn’t it? Our relationships can send a ripple of excitement, a ripple of laughter, and a ripple of concern through the society; a ripple in one place creates ripples elsewhere. The glow of the light and love in relationships gorgeously illuminates every heart. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=40JYM9-BM-Y Relationships are of the greatest consequence—we have the chance and choice to be above and beyond a position of responsibility. Not until we can love ourselves, our family and friends, our communities, and the Nature, can we find that every day is a great day. Night and day, the music of relationship plays on. We are all in the dance. All of our relationships are all in the circle, all irresistibly connected--all give value to our survival—all to remember and to be remembered. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4eU52Gh3P08

Relationship is a journey to remember and to be remembered. Why is “relationship” so unpronounceable? American philosopher Cornel West affectionately asserts, “We have to recognize that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.” Yes. Healthy, happy relationships don’t allow uniqueness or perfection to injure our pride, for they require authenticity and shared ingenuousness. High-quality relationships make us feel safe and remember our courage and vision. Meanwhile, reframing relationships for positive changes takes more. In relationships, sometimes believing can be the greatest adventure of all! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjXQzRWmb_I We believe, because we take actions. In relationships, let us believe in communication, appreciation, and compassion. Communication takes skills; however, gratitude and compassion are the spices. https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/denmark-muslim-mp-woman-ozlem-sara-cekic-nazis-tea-coffee-interview-a8087631.html Frankly, all the fierceness and frustration in relationships have blinded the windows of our minds. To fearlessly open them, please remember to love your and others’ imperfection, remember the characteristic and voice in every relationship to turn every conflict into connection, and remember to melt down the "invisible walls"—play and humor are more than fun—the key is just sharing. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1571-9979.2008.00175.x

From “The Nibble Theory and the Kernel of Power” (by Kaleel Jamison)

Relationships - of all kinds - are like sand
held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand,
the sand remains where it is.
The minute you close your hand
and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand
trickles through your fingers.

You may hold onto it, but most
will be spilled. A relationship is like that.
Held loosely, with respect and freedom
for the other person, it is likely to remain intact.
But hold too tightly, too possessively,
and the relationship slips away and is lost.

Sing with gratitude in your heart--the key is just sharing. When the Sun laughs, revealing light and love, relationship is the glorious sunshine comes streaming in to direct our eyes. Dr. Brené Brown, an author, speaker, and professor, defines connection as “the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” To foster relationships to be the best self, let us request the resourcefulness of growing and transforming, rejoice that every journey is more than rewarding, and remember the paradox that the most fundamental seed and also the sweetest fruit of every relationship is shared accomplishments. For the happiness of pursuing meaningful relationships, remember the time we have with Happiers, remember our relationship with anyone believing in the magic of language, and remember our relationship with positive impacts. We are all in the circle. What makes us beautiful, is, living a life to remember and to be remembered. To be or not to be? Join us. Thanks!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeAED0matdc







With Gratitude,
Jasmine